Welcome to Ruby's Heavenly Treasures.

Please look on the side bar for a new idea I have for memorializing our loved ones, they are beautiful flower pictures with your child's name and the meaning of their name.

This is a blog site for parents who have received a hat for their child to come and see the inspiration behind the hats that I make.

It is also intended for other crocheters and knitters in the Markham, Ontario area to donate hats to Sick Kids or find free patterns to give to their local hospitals.

My daughter Ruby was 21 months old when she passed away suddenly to a complication of RSV that resulted in brain death.

She was (and still is) one of the most precious joys in my life.

This blog will always be in construction and please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you as your child goes through their treatment.

My wish for them is to come home as quickly as possible.If you are here because your child has passed away, my deepest condolances go out to you.
I know what it is like to have lost a child and it's one of the most painful things anyone should never have to go through.

Please feel free to share your comments and pictures of your child in one of my hats.

Please email me at rubys_ht@yahoo.ca

Much love, Denise
(a forever grieving mom just trying to make a difference)



Saturday, June 7, 2008

Hats For Sick Kids Hospital

I will post a picture here a bit later (need to get all the hats sorted nicely and a picture taken hehe) of the hats that are ready to be going to Sick Kids Hospital here in Toronto, Ontario.

Crochet and Knitting Links

Here are some links to websites that have free crochet, knitting and sewing patterns. Please donate to hospitals, there is ALWAYS a need for hats, blankets and comfort toys.

My motto is this:

Make a difference in a child's life, bring a smile to their face, comfort a worried parent, and show how much you care through your handcrafted creations.

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Care Wear ~ wonderful site for patterns and also a link for what your local hospital needs

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Current Children Needing Our Prayers

This post is for children who are currently going through struggles in their life. Some may or may not have pictures to go with them. I will post updates as I can and when available.

If you would like us to pray for your child, please email me at
rubys_ht@yahoo.ca If you would like your child's first name and condition to pray for plus a picture of him/her in one of my hats, that would be great. Just let me know your preference.

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** Caleb ~ Please pray for his family (10/05/08), little Caleb has joined my precious Ruby in Heaven. Prayer for comfort and a healthy grieving process for his family. =( ~ newborn baby boy who has a tumor and water on the brain. Doctors are reluctant to operate and he needs a full healing.

** Sierrah Lilac ~ 15 year old fighting Lukemia at the Children's Hospital in Pittsburgh, PA

** prayers for children who are going through rough times at our local hospitals and children's hospitals.

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Precious Angels In One Of My Hats

This will unfortunately be a continuous post with precious children who have gone to meet their Creator.

If you would like to have your child added to this post, and also so that we can pray for your family; please email me at
rubysht@yahoo.ca with a picture, your child's name, birth and death dates and the parents name so we can pray. I do not wish to put last names with the pictues, I don't feel them necessary.

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This is my precious Ruby. She is the only child who has passed away who has worn one of my hats.

Ruby Grace Irene
April 16,2005 - February 12, 2007 ~ 21 months old
Parents: Daniel and Denise



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Grief Poetry

Do Babies Grow Up In Heaven? ~ author unknown

Will I know my baby when we meet again?
Will he have grown up, not be the infant that died in my arms?
Or will he be a stranger to me, not knowing who I am,
Or me knowing him?

Do babies grow up in Heaven?
He never got his first tooth, or said his first words.
No first shoes, no Santa, no first birthday cake.
Will my son still be the baby when we meet again?

Do babies grow up in Heaven?
Who sings him precious lullabies?
Who holds him close and kisses him everyday?
Who tells him constantly that they love him?

Do babies grow up in Heaven?
When we next meet, will he know me?
Will he want to know me?
Will he be my son who died at three months, or a man, fully grown?
Will I have the joy of being a mother to my son for all eternity?

Do babies grow in heaven?
Will I be able to hold him, love him, sing lullabies to him?
Will I be able to hold his tiny hand, or will it be a man's hand?
Will I ever have the joy that only holding my son can bring?
I need to know! In heaven, is my baby still a baby?

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Goodbye by Tammy Marie Denue

I always took for granted,
What I thought I'd never lose.
Because I never thought it would happen,
Until I heard the dreaded news.

They said you were chosen for His garden,
His preciously hand picked bouquet.
"God really needed him,
That's why he couldn't stay."

Saying goodbye is never easy,
It's the hardest thing to do.
But what hurts me even more,
Is not the chance to say it to you.

So today, Jesus, as you are listening
In Your home above;
Would you go and find my dad,
And give him all my love!

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Useful Links

Below are some links that I have found useful. I will continue to add more as time allows. Please note that I am not responsible for what you may find on other websites, I am just trying to provide resources. =)


Bereavement Websites and Support

Snowflakes Of Hope ~ mama who makes crocheted snowflakes for those who have lost a child through miscarriage and stillbirth

Baby Steps ~ great resource with child, family stories to connect with

Silent Grief ~ Christian support for child loss

Bereaved Families Of Ontario ~ support for Ontario families

Alone Alive ~ support for parents who have lost their only child or all their children

Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep ~ volunteer photographers take pictures of your passed on baby for free

M.I.S.S. Foundation ~ support for children, adults on child grief

National Share Office ~ has a newsletter, forums for prenatal and infant loss

CGEA Children's Grief Education Association ~ resource for helping parents help children through grief, not just death but other situations, this site has been Very helpful to us personally in helping our daughter deal with her grief
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Memorials and Keepsakes Stores

Grief Watch ~ books, jewellery and all kinds of nice stuff

Carla's Angels ~ has beautiful handmade angels, she does custom ones and sells them in her store

My Forever Child ~ keepsakes and jewellery for rememberance, healing and hope

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Ruby Poetry By Her Mommy =)

No Longer ~ December 6, 2007

Ruby red lips,
Eyes sparkling blue.
Sweet chubby cheeks,
No longer have you.

Innocent look,
Arms open wide.
Open lip kissies,
No longer by my side.

Look of curiosity,
Into everything.
Humming instead of words,
No longer will you sing.

Wobbily fast walk,
Always running away.
Chasing after you,
No longer will you stay.

Eating cheerios,
Hiding under table.
Blowing mommy kisses,
No longer are you able.

Joyous laughter,
Taking off your bib.
Waking at 3 am,
No longer jumping in your crib.

Snuggles on the couch,
Falling asleep in the car.
Stealing baby kissies,
No longer pointing at the stars.

Licking windows,
Blanket peek a boo.
My heart forever aches,
No longer have I you.

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I'll Never ~ February 5, 2008

I'll never get to hold your hand,
As we walk to your first day of school.
Won't get to wave as you go inside,
As my cheek is blown by a breeze that is crisp and cool.

I'll never shop for a new bathing suit,
Watching you splash around in the pool.
Laughing and playing happily,
As your daddy pretends to be the fool.

I'll never kiss a scratch on your knee,
As you ran too fast and fell down.
To place the bandaid on your knee,
I'd kiss you on the cheek and see a disappearing frown.

I'll never take you to your first movie,
Seeing the excitement you can barely hold in.
Big bowl of popcorn just for you,
Pure excitement as we wait for the movie to begin.

I'll never take you to the store,
As you buy a birthday present for a classmate.
The first party you've been invited to,
The day approaches and you can hardly wait.

I'll never see the look of pride in your eyes,
As you show me an A on your assignment.
You spent long hours working on it,
And trips to the store for supplies I was sent.

I'll never be the shoulder you cry on,
When the boy you like breaks your heart.
To offer words of love and encouragement,
And remind you that you have a fresh start.

I'll never see you graduate,
And wave to you from the crowd.
Give you a graduation present,
Of you, I am so proud.

I'll never help you pack your things,
Deciding what you need to take.
Holding back tears of joy,
The drive to college you now will make.

I'll never cry in sheer joy,
When you show me an engagement ring.
As you ask daddy to write you a song,
Of the love you two share for a friend to sing.

I'll never fix your wedding veil,
Just before we give you away.
To know a new chapter of your life is just beginning,
Torn because I want my baby to stay.

So many things I'll never get to see,
So many things I'll never get to do.
The one thing I miss the most,
Is being able to hold you.

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Lord Please ~ February 12, 2008 ~ one year "going home" anniversary

Lord, please be with my mommy,
She's so sad today.
It's been a year since she held me,
And I was taken away.

Lord, please be with my daddy,
He's had to be so strong.
He misses me so very much,
Another lyric added to his song.

Lord, please be with my big sister,
And give her kisses from me.
It won't be long before,
She can teach patty cake to me.

Lord, please be with my little brother,
Whom I never got to meet.
May they tell him all about me,
And how he has my tiny feet.

Lord, please be with my family,
As they miss me very much.
I blow them kisses every day,
And long to feel their touch.

Lord, please keep my family safe,
As they continue on their way.
Let them know our time to be reunited,
Is such a short time away.

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Happy Birthday Ruby!!! ~ April 16, 2008 ~ would have been Roo's 3rd birthday

Happy Birthday Ruby!!!
Today you're turning three.
It's still a special day for us,
In my arms I wish you could be.

I look up in the sky,
Bright blue and cloud free.
What are you doing today?
I wish I could see.

Do they have birthday parties in Heaven?
Do you get to eat a cake?
Do you open birthday presents
That your friends make?

I wish that you were with us,
To blow out candles on your birthday cupcake.
Getting caught sneaking bits of icing,
That you helped mommy bake.

Every year that passes by,
And you are not here to watch grow.
We will always celebrate your special day,
Making it last all day by taking things slow.

Please have a great day today,
In whatever you decide to do.
Every year we will celebrate,
And blow out your candles for you!

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